The Kinky Kafe 

The Kinky Kafe is not a place, it is an experience and a brand. At the Kinky Kafe, we believe in creating kink spaces that are not only inclusive of queer identities, but entirely encompass them. As the world of BDSM becomes more and more mainstream, thanks to modern media and unethical methods of branding the lifestyle, it feels as though there are less and less truly safe spaces for queer kinksters to explore, without fear or discomfort. 

At the Kinky Kafe, we prioritize queer identities, black kinksters, and kinksters of color. We lead with education and spiritual guidance in order to provide a more nurturing and trauma informed entry into the BDSM lifestyle. We are artists and performers who use our creativity and skills to create unique and memorable events, big and small. 

You can join the Kinky Kafe and support our work on our Patreon. Just click on "Join the Society" in the menu.

Event Planning

Whether it's a kinky birthday party, anniversary celebration, bachelor(ette) party, or otherwise, The Kinky Kafe will craft a magical experience for you and yours.

We are always open to collaborating with other kink businesses as well.

Kinky Kafe Studio

Kinky Kafe Studio is the Kinky Kafe's adult entertainment Production business - Queer, Kinky, Creative, sometimes spooky, but always sexy is our vibe.

Exploring O/our Depths

The EOD Podcast is dedicated to the mental and spiritual health and hygiene of the kink inclined. You can find us streaming on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.


Exploring O/our Depths is also offered as an in-person guided workshop.

Education

We provide free kink and BDSM education through our Youtube Channel, along with a variety of classes and workshops lead by Daddy Doyenne and other queer kink educators.


Daddy Doyenne is also available or kink education bookings.

Who Are We?

CEO/Founder 

Daddy Doyenne

Daddy Doyenne (they/them) is a nonbinary transmasc pro and lifestyle Dominatrix, known for promoting the idea of gender-non-specific Domination, or  Themdom, Findom, an adult film performer, producer and editor,  and kink and BDSM educator. Daddy is also a classically trained Chef with 13 years in the culinary and hospitality industry, a visual artist, a root worker, healer, and spiritual guide, a burlesque performer under their title,The Demonatrix, a mother, and the founder of the International Queer and BIPOC Sex Worker Collective.
The Kinky Kafe is Daddy's precious brainchild; weaving together their many talents, interests and passions all under one brand. 

Manager 

Dutchess

Dutchess is Mutha of the house and Daddy's right hand. *to be continued*

Assistant Event Coordinator

Harlow Holiday 

*coming soon*

Are you ready for the Kinky Kafe experience?

Book a consultation now!